True story ..

It is said that there was a girl orphaned has no one in the world after God only her mother

And her cousin married her and was unjust to her very unjust and mighty

He was mistreated by him and all his family and made it as his servant working day and night and yet this was not recognized by the insult and insult and curse that reach the beating in many cases and this girl whenever narrowed the world resort to the warmest place is the bosom of her mother ..

She complains to her mother about everything that happened to her and then cries together and then returns to her husband. And the mother is weak, his seat is not about Lula Guo, but her daughter shares her pain by crying with her.

And it remained for ten years and every day the situation worsens even near the time and the time of the mother's departure to the Creator

The girl cried and collapsed and her mother died.

. My mother said to her who I complain after your departure to whom I tell my tragedy my mother do not leave me alone ..

And the mother of her daughter said to her, "If you have narrowed your ways, come up here to your mother's house, spread your carpet, prostrate to God, and tell him all that troubles you."

. The mother died a week ago and narrowed the world to the girl and took her prostration and dragged her water for ablutions and went to her mother's house and worked to advise her mother Vahst very strong and continued to do so for the month of each week take water and go to her mother's house to stay for hours and then return smiling.

Her husband's family noticed this

The devil entered her and her husband and told him that your wife is certainly betraying you. She goes to her mother's house every week, and with her the water is scarce. Then she returns after hours and the water is empty.

So he decided to watch his wife and went ahead of time to her mother's house and hid in a place he sees and she does not see and this time happened something that can not be expected ....
When she entered her mother's house to pray, her husband was found dead, and they blamed her and killed her unlawfully

Treatment of the sad child

Although the word happiness and innocence is associated with children, there are some children who are characterized by depression and the loss of life for their loved ones.

The distressing here is the finishing of the eyebrows and almonds milled 24 hours a day and crying from the causes and sometimes without reason.

At first, the mother feels a kind of compassion and compassion for this child and remains on his shoulders and groaned at him thinking that this eliminates depression, but she soon find herself angry and do the severity of bad mood and decadence of this child

The sad child is present in many houses and has a special style in dealing with him

The most important reasons that affect the child's psyche and make him a sad child:

1 - not satisfy his need for sleep, that is, the child who does not take enough sleep has a great readiness to wake up with a depressed psychology.

2 - not taking enough food or energy that is made or depleted more than the food intake.

3 - the family that lives the child, it affects the psychological If the people surrounding the child who are angry for the simplest causes and nervous and mood variant and there is no day in the day for fun and mood, the child is affected and reflected in his personality and temperament few hours of fun or entertainment or foreplay with the child kills the psychological fun in the child .

4. Caffeinated foods such as chocolate and carbonated water cause mood swings in children.

5 - the presence of people harassing the child in school or in the club as if his colleagues say "Oh fat" or "skinny" and pass on it, because all this generates a feeling inside him less than his peers and dispel this feeling in the continuous crying.

6 - the presence of a new child in the family taken from the throne of the auction and attention Vihs that he was isolated and ostracized through the surrounding and no one cares about him as in the past.

The solution in the treatment of the sad child:

The indifference that we show him towards his pain and not to mention his status in front of others so as not to think that this advantage distinguish him from his peers continue his sad behavior and Istslh, and increase the number of hours of fun and play with him.

Try to talk to him as if a great person to know what is going on in the immortality and what are enabled themselves may be suffering from a certain phobia or fear and we do not know, and the dialogue must be based on the basis of safety, because the child will not reveal what the chest since the first attempt and therefore must work on Gain his confidence gradually before trying to explore the truth that drives him to this situation.

Add nutritional supplements from vitamins to food but they do not enrich healthy foods from fruits and vegetables.

Increase your child's self-confidence by telling him, for example, "Your cement is not a fault but on the contrary you will learn stronger than all your peers, but for our own benefit, apart from what they say, we have to start a healthy health program.

Effect of separation of spouses on children

The effect of separation of spouses on children, which appears in the form of symptoms such as fear, anxiety, depression and guilt, because they believe that divorce may be due to the error of what they have done .. This effect varies according to the age of the child .. Difficult decision.

Pre-school children 3 to 5 years old are sad to divorce their parents, become angry and anxious and become less emotionally stable. This is manifested in the form of ADHD, isolation, lack of play with friends, and troubled behavior with them. They often fall back to a younger age, become more reliable, urinate in bed, suck their fingers, and have nightmares.
Children between 6-8 years are the most difficult stage to adapt to parental divorce, especially for male children, because the absence of the father loses the son the constant masculine form that he can unite with and remains an example, and there is a risk of being united with the mother and this may make him vulnerable to anomaly Sexual Orientation Unless in his life after divorce there is a model for a man who embodies his male role model,
While the girls unite with the mother, the problem becomes less difficult for them. The interaction at this age is the crying and feeling of rejection towards the father who left the house. They try to hide those sad feelings if the mother is hostile to the father. They are considered self-interested and feel disobedient and love.
Children from 9 to 12 years are sad, but they can take one parent's side against the other, and blame the other. Boys become more aggressive and do not cooperate at home and have less schooling. Girls are more obedient to mothers, but both boys and girls are worried. With fears of loneliness and feelings of weakness and disability, and may suffer some of the symptoms of physical recurring such as headaches and abdominal pain. Adolescents are better off with parental divorce than in previous age groups, Especially if their personality has crystallized and they have friends and personal independence, and can help their parents to overcome the trauma of divorce, but few may be associated and suffer feelings of anger and lead to inappropriate behavior in the form of relations with the opposite sex, some may become depressed and withdrawn from family and friends, And may fail in future relationships in marriage.
As for the long-term effects of divorce on children, which studies have tried to monitor in some countries of the world, the professor of psychiatry said that it was noted that 30% of children adapted after the divorce of parents successfully, 40% were between success and adaptation and experiencing some problems, while the remaining 30% continued to have problems throughout Time, and these problems were the continuation of frustration and anger and rejection of the father who left the house,Or grief with the pre-divorce memories and living in an excessively fanciful way. He added that the most important factors that increase the impact of these effects is the lack of cooperation of parents after divorce, mutual feelings of hostility and load messages to children without direct dialogue between parents, and talk one parent about the other badly, and not meet the children's material and moral needs and accusations and mutual issues between parents In the courts and the intervention of other parties exacerbate the conflict, and the instability of the child in the home of one of the parents and scattered in the place to which he belongs, and deprive the child of one of them, or delivery, which means that one of the parents does not like or that it is bad and harm the child, when the child knows that his father is badAnd that the son of this father understands that it is also bad and that it is undesirableSimilarly, the children of divorcees also suffer from the pressure of the mutual blame game between the parents, or conflicts for custody of the child. These pressures can be compounded by the child's loss of stability and swing between the separated parents, or the transition to another remote area And parents' depression with the effect of failure and divorce may also play a role in the poor psychological state of children, and there may be economic pressures for the deterioration of the household's physical income. It is interesting to note that the degree of mathematics in children of divorced children is affected while their reading grades are not affected, and there is no danger of showing children their behavioral problems such as quarrels, quarrels and misconduct. There is no doubt that divorce for parents is a major event in life as well as for the child.

Finally, the continuation of a family life full of problems and conflicts for all small and large or emotional coldness and poor communication between spouses have a worse impact on children than divorce, provided that the divorce is civilized in the sense that the parents work together and that each aware that he could be an inappropriate husband, To be a good father, show respect and respect for each other in front of the children, and not to use children to carry messages from one to the other but are directly related .. If this is achieved, the effect of separation is more positive for children than to continue the family life uncomfortable for each the parties.