The effect of separation of spouses on children, which appears in the form of symptoms such as fear, anxiety, depression and guilt, because they believe that divorce may be due to the error of what they have done .. This effect varies according to the age of the child .. Difficult decision.
Pre-school children 3 to 5 years old are sad to divorce their parents, become angry and anxious and become less emotionally stable. This is manifested in the form of ADHD, isolation, lack of play with friends, and troubled behavior with them. They often fall back to a younger age, become more reliable, urinate in bed, suck their fingers, and have nightmares.
Children between 6-8 years are the most difficult stage to adapt to parental divorce, especially for male children, because the absence of the father loses the son the constant masculine form that he can unite with and remains an example, and there is a risk of being united with the mother and this may make him vulnerable to anomaly Sexual Orientation Unless in his life after divorce there is a model for a man who embodies his male role model,
While the girls unite with the mother, the problem becomes less difficult for them. The interaction at this age is the crying and feeling of rejection towards the father who left the house. They try to hide those sad feelings if the mother is hostile to the father. They are considered self-interested and feel disobedient and love.
Children from 9 to 12 years are sad, but they can take one parent's side against the other, and blame the other. Boys become more aggressive and do not cooperate at home and have less schooling. Girls are more obedient to mothers, but both boys and girls are worried. With fears of loneliness and feelings of weakness and disability, and may suffer some of the symptoms of physical recurring such as headaches and abdominal pain. Adolescents are better off with parental divorce than in previous age groups, Especially if their personality has crystallized and they have friends and personal independence, and can help their parents to overcome the trauma of divorce, but few may be associated and suffer feelings of anger and lead to inappropriate behavior in the form of relations with the opposite sex, some may become depressed and withdrawn from family and friends, And may fail in future relationships in marriage.
As for the long-term effects of divorce on children, which studies have tried to monitor in some countries of the world, the professor of psychiatry said that it was noted that 30% of children adapted after the divorce of parents successfully, 40% were between success and adaptation and experiencing some problems, while the remaining 30% continued to have problems throughout Time, and these problems were the continuation of frustration and anger and rejection of the father who left the house,Or grief with the pre-divorce memories and living in an excessively fanciful way. He added that the most important factors that increase the impact of these effects is the lack of cooperation of parents after divorce, mutual feelings of hostility and load messages to children without direct dialogue between parents, and talk one parent about the other badly, and not meet the children's material and moral needs and accusations and mutual issues between parents In the courts and the intervention of other parties exacerbate the conflict, and the instability of the child in the home of one of the parents and scattered in the place to which he belongs, and deprive the child of one of them, or delivery, which means that one of the parents does not like or that it is bad and harm the child, when the child knows that his father is badAnd that the son of this father understands that it is also bad and that it is undesirableSimilarly, the children of divorcees also suffer from the pressure of the mutual blame game between the parents, or conflicts for custody of the child. These pressures can be compounded by the child's loss of stability and swing between the separated parents, or the transition to another remote area And parents' depression with the effect of failure and divorce may also play a role in the poor psychological state of children, and there may be economic pressures for the deterioration of the household's physical income. It is interesting to note that the degree of mathematics in children of divorced children is affected while their reading grades are not affected, and there is no danger of showing children their behavioral problems such as quarrels, quarrels and misconduct. There is no doubt that divorce for parents is a major event in life as well as for the child.
Children between 6-8 years are the most difficult stage to adapt to parental divorce, especially for male children, because the absence of the father loses the son the constant masculine form that he can unite with and remains an example, and there is a risk of being united with the mother and this may make him vulnerable to anomaly Sexual Orientation Unless in his life after divorce there is a model for a man who embodies his male role model,
While the girls unite with the mother, the problem becomes less difficult for them. The interaction at this age is the crying and feeling of rejection towards the father who left the house. They try to hide those sad feelings if the mother is hostile to the father. They are considered self-interested and feel disobedient and love.
Children from 9 to 12 years are sad, but they can take one parent's side against the other, and blame the other. Boys become more aggressive and do not cooperate at home and have less schooling. Girls are more obedient to mothers, but both boys and girls are worried. With fears of loneliness and feelings of weakness and disability, and may suffer some of the symptoms of physical recurring such as headaches and abdominal pain. Adolescents are better off with parental divorce than in previous age groups, Especially if their personality has crystallized and they have friends and personal independence, and can help their parents to overcome the trauma of divorce, but few may be associated and suffer feelings of anger and lead to inappropriate behavior in the form of relations with the opposite sex, some may become depressed and withdrawn from family and friends, And may fail in future relationships in marriage.
As for the long-term effects of divorce on children, which studies have tried to monitor in some countries of the world, the professor of psychiatry said that it was noted that 30% of children adapted after the divorce of parents successfully, 40% were between success and adaptation and experiencing some problems, while the remaining 30% continued to have problems throughout Time, and these problems were the continuation of frustration and anger and rejection of the father who left the house,Or grief with the pre-divorce memories and living in an excessively fanciful way. He added that the most important factors that increase the impact of these effects is the lack of cooperation of parents after divorce, mutual feelings of hostility and load messages to children without direct dialogue between parents, and talk one parent about the other badly, and not meet the children's material and moral needs and accusations and mutual issues between parents In the courts and the intervention of other parties exacerbate the conflict, and the instability of the child in the home of one of the parents and scattered in the place to which he belongs, and deprive the child of one of them, or delivery, which means that one of the parents does not like or that it is bad and harm the child, when the child knows that his father is badAnd that the son of this father understands that it is also bad and that it is undesirableSimilarly, the children of divorcees also suffer from the pressure of the mutual blame game between the parents, or conflicts for custody of the child. These pressures can be compounded by the child's loss of stability and swing between the separated parents, or the transition to another remote area And parents' depression with the effect of failure and divorce may also play a role in the poor psychological state of children, and there may be economic pressures for the deterioration of the household's physical income. It is interesting to note that the degree of mathematics in children of divorced children is affected while their reading grades are not affected, and there is no danger of showing children their behavioral problems such as quarrels, quarrels and misconduct. There is no doubt that divorce for parents is a major event in life as well as for the child.
Finally, the continuation of a family life full of problems and conflicts for all small and large or emotional coldness and poor communication between spouses have a worse impact on children than divorce, provided that the divorce is civilized in the sense that the parents work together and that each aware that he could be an inappropriate husband, To be a good father, show respect and respect for each other in front of the children, and not to use children to carry messages from one to the other but are directly related .. If this is achieved, the effect of separation is more positive for children than to continue the family life uncomfortable for each the parties.
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